Being Well Podcast: Facing Your Dreaded Experience

Being Well Podcast: Facing Your Dreaded Experience

We all have things in life that scare us. Some of us are scared of spiders, or earthquakes, or the dark – as Forrest was as a child. Most of these things we can push back against, or do our best to avoid. We can squish a spider – though I’m generally an advocate for trying to rescue them when possible – or we can turn on a night light.

Then there are other, more personal fears. Maybe a fear of vulnerable, open connection to another person. A fear that we aren’t worthy. A fear of putting ourselves out there, asking for what we really want, being seen by other people. Of shame, or anger, or even having things be still and calm inside ourselves.

Some fears can become so core to who we are, that we start to organize our lives around not having to experience them. These are our “dreaded experiences,” and they exert a quiet power over how we live our lives.

In today’s not-to-be-missed episode, Forrest and I explore those dreaded experiences. What are they, where do they come from, and what can we do to work with them or free ourselves from them?

I hope you enjoy it!

Support the Podcast: We’re on Patreon! If you’d like to support the podcast, follow this link.

Key Topics:

2:40: What is a “dreaded experience?”

6:40: The three step process of a dreaded experience

9:10: The critical distinction between “event” and “experience”

12:20: Forrest’s dreaded experiences

16:30: Normal avoidance vs. making yourself small

18:15: Where do dreaded experiences come from?

24:10: Starting to risk the dreaded experience

29:00: Ways to start safely facing fears

38:00: Identifying your dreaded experience

41:20: Being seen as your whole self

46:30: Our journey of growth

49:30: Recap

Foundations: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Our holiday sale is going on now, and don’t hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you’re in need. Also, podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL10  for another 10% off!

Sponsors: Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.

Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! 

Connect with the show:



FREE Audio and Practice Pack:
How to Fight Anxiety and Fear

7 Audio Conversations and a PDF Guide for moving from anxiety to security.
GET IT NOW
By signing up you’ll receive Rick Hanson’s free newsletters and promotions to which you can unsubscribe any time. Your email address will never be shared or sold.
close-link

Get the Just One Thing
Weekly Newsletter

A simple practice each week that will bring you more joy, more fulfilling relationships, and more peace of mind and heart.

You can unsubscribe at any time and your email address will never be shared.