Being Well Podcast: The Grieving Brain with Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor

22 Jul Being Well Podcast: The Grieving Brain with Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor

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LISTEN

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About Our Guest: Mary-Frances is a neuroscientist, clinical psychologist, and associate professor of psychology at the University of Arizona, where she directs the Grief, Loss and Social Stress Lab, which investigates the effects of grief on the brain and the body. She’s also the author of the wonderful book The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss. [/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]

WATCH

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0:00: Introduction and disclaimer

3:35: Mary-Frances’ personal background

6:55: Distinguishing grief from grieving

9:20: Self-criticism and overfocus on recovery

11:20: Changing how we frame grief as something to get over

13:00: Attachment and our neurological map

16:00: Prediction error

19:30: Complicated grief

25:00: Spiritual practice or a worldview that incorporates death

28:05: Is there a ‘normal’ grieving process?

35:25: Pathology and normal human experience

46:00: Neurological overview of grief in the brain

50:40: The Dual Process Model of Grief

54:10: Sometimes distraction is okay

56:15: Therapeutic practices and learning from grief

1:01:00: Grief and its relationship to love

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