Being Well Podcast: True Intimacy, Toxic Individuality, and Breaking the Trauma Cycle with Terry Real

09 May Being Well Podcast: True Intimacy, Toxic Individuality, and Breaking the Trauma Cycle with Terry Real

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LISTEN

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About our Guest: Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and bestselling author. He is also founder of the Relational Life Institute, which offers workshops for couples as well as professional training for clinicians in his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) methodology. His latest book is Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship which comes out this month.[/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]

WATCH

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0:00: Introduction

1:45: Terry’s personal transformation

4:55: Regulating up to our parents

7:05: The Adaptive Child vs. the Wise Adult

14:25: Us vs. the delusions of individualism and patriarchy

18:05: Balancing acceptance and agency

22:45: Enlightened self-interest and working with couples

29:25: Three phases to get more of what you want in relationships without a counselor

33:35: How to support people–particularly women–in dealing with unfairness

37:15: Gendered tendencies–moving into intimacy and out of patriarchy

43:20: Shame and healthy self-esteem

49:40: Relational reckoning and relational integrity

56:55: Repairing trust and grandiosity

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