Resilience and Well-Being
Your work focuses on increasing resilience and well-being. What is resilience?
What do you mean by well-being? Is it the same as happiness?
What are the benefits of well-being for physical health? For mental health? For relationships? For effectiveness and success?
What got you personally interested in resilience and well-being?
What about pain and suffering? Are you saying we should suppress that, or tune it out?
What’s the role of sadness, anxiety, hurt, or anger? Do these emotions have benefits?
What Can People Do to Have More Well-Being
What causes well-being? What can people do themselves to grow and stabilize their well-being?
Is this the same as positive thinking? Or the same as looking on the bright side or “fake it ‘til you make it?”
You talk about growing mental resources – such as mindfulness, patience, compassion, and gratitude – for resilience and well-being. You also call these “inner strengths” or “psychological resources.” What do you mean by “mental resources?” What are some examples?
Are positive emotions such as love, satisfaction, or peacefulness mental resources? Is happiness itself a mental resource?
But don’t we grow from stress, loss, and painful experiences? People say: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger? Is this true?
Does Growing Well-Being Make People Selfish
Does your approach have the risk of turning away from the problems of the world and getting caught up in self-improvement, selfishness, and navel-gazing?
How does it work, that becoming happier usually makes people kinder and more cooperative and generous toward others?
Is this mainly for people who have fortunate lives and are already happy? What about all those people whose lives are really hard, maybe with intense health issues, or living in poverty, or simply long hard days making a living at a crummy job and taking care of their family?
Mindfulness Is Not Enough
You say that mindfulness has become really misunderstood. What do you mean? Why is this a problem?
You’ve written that mindfulness is good but it’s not enough. Even that it’s gotten overrated. What do you mean?
How the Mind Changes the Brain
You say that growing mental resources is a kind of learning that requires changing the brain. What do you mean?
You’ve been talking about the brain. Can you give us a quick summary of what it contains?
Does the brain stay the same over a person’s lifetime or does it change?
Are the brains of men and women different from each other?
How do our thoughts and feelings change the brain?
The Negativity Bias
Is the brain changed by positive experiences as much as by negative experiences?
Why does the brain have a negativity bias?
How does the negativity bias affect us?
What can people do about the negativity bias?
The Two Steps Needed to Change the Brain for the Better
You’ve written that the big weakness in much counseling, coaching, human resources programs, and mindfulness training is that people very often leave out the second step of “installation,” which means no learning and no lasting value. As a result, the healing and growth curves of people are a lot flatter than they need to be:
What about modern, wealthy societies? Why is it that people who have so much are often so unhappy?
The HEAL Steps of Positive Neuroplasticity
You use the acronym HEAL to summarize the steps of changing the brain for the better. You also call this self-directed neuroplasticity or “mindful cultivation.” Can you walk us through these steps? Can you give a practical example?
How would someone use the HEAL steps in the flow of their day?
Are there special times to use the HEAL steps?
Is it appropriate to encourage others to use the HEAL steps? How could a coach or therapist do this? A human resources trainer? A manager? An educator? A parent?
Growing the Inner Resources That We Need the Most
Are there specific mental resources – inner strengths – that are useful for particular external challenges or internal issues? Let’s say a person’s job is really stressful; what would be useful? Or say that a person feels anxious a lot of the time; what could help? How about trauma?
You use the evolution of the brain as a roadmap/framework for identifying the mental resources that are matched to particular challenges or issues. Can you summarize that evolution?
You say that humans have three fundamental needs, for safety, satisfaction, and connection. Can you give examples of these needs? How do we meet them? How do these needs relate to the evolution of the brain?
Can you give examples of how a person would grow specific mental resources for particular situations? How about situations or relationships at work? What kind of mental resources would help people with peak performance?
Growing a Green Zone Brain
You say that our brain has basically two settings, two ways of going about meeting our needs (for safety, satisfaction, and connection). What are these two settings? What’s the difference between them? And why does this matter?
Let’s say that someone is caught up in the Reactive, “red zone” setting of the brain. They feel a lot of fear, frustration, or hurt. What can they do to get out of the red zone?
What can someone do to build up the Responsive, “green zone” setting of their brain? So that they are more able to stay in the green zone when things are tough. And so that they feel more peace, contentment, and love.
Helping the Stone Age Brain in the 21st Century
Your view is that a major source of the world’s problems today is the mismatch between our Stone Age brains and modern 21st century societies. What are examples of this mismatch? What are the consequences?
In particular, you emphasize that our ancestors lived in small bands of about 50 people that cooperated with “us” but were aggressive toward “them.” Why does this matter today?
You point out that when people feel deep down that their needs are not being met, they feel unhappy, get worn down, do worse at work, and get into conflicts with others. How does this work out at the level of nations or the world altogether?
You think it’s important to take in the good of experiences of your needs being met. How would this affect humanity as a whole?
You have a vision of a world in which a critical mass of human brains are centered in the green zone, and you say this would change the course of human history. What do you mean? Why is this important? You say, “green brain, green world.” What would this look like?
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