What do you want?
Hold wants lightly.
Getting caught up in wanting - wanting both to get what's pleasant and to avoid what's unpleasant - is a major source of suffering and harm for oneself and others.
First, a lot of what we want to get...
Are you getting rope burn?
Cling less, love more
As a rock climber and a parent, I know some physical kinds of clinging are good - like to small holds or small hands!
But clinging as a psychological state has a feeling of tension in it, and...
What could you offer?
Make the offering.
One of the strangest and most meaningful experiences of my life occurred when I going through Rolfing (ten brilliant sessions of deep-tissue bodywork) in my early 20's. The fifth session works on the stomach area, and I was...
What do you notice in people?
See the good in others.
Many interactions these days have a kind of bumper-car quality to them. At work, at home, on the telephone, via email: we sort of bounce off of each other while we exchange information, smile or...
What's the most important thing?
Keep your eyes on the prize.
Have you heard this saying?
The most important thing
is to remember the most important thing.
What are the most important things to you? In your life as a whole? During a particular interaction with someone? Right this...
There's been mistreatment or injustice - now what?
Stay right when you're wronged.
It’s easy to treat people well when they treat you well. The real test is when they treat you badly. (Much of what I say here applies to concerns about injustice or...
Who Has Cared About You?
Feel cared about.
Everyone knows what it’s like to care about someone. Remember being with a friend, a mate, a pet: you feel warmly connected, and want him or her not to suffer and to be happy.
On the other hand, you’ve...