Are you all over the place? The Practice: Rest in center. Why? Gravity and entropy are powerful processes in the natural world. Gravity draws things together, toward a center, while entropy scatters them into disorder. In much the same way, in our own lives, some things bring us...
In relationships, women generally tend to focus on feeling connected, while men are sensitive to status and dominance. Each gender style is valid and skill with the other gender’s style lets you shift gears effectively, depending on what’s needed....
How do you love? The Practice: Love freely. Why? In my early 20's, I went through Rolfing, a form of deep-tissue bodywork, and I nervously anticipated the 5th session, the one that goes deep into the belly. But instead of gobs of repressed emotional pain, what poured out was...
Whether at home or at work, it’s easy to spend more time dwelling on the faults of others than reflecting on the room for improvement in oneself. But waiting for others to change first creates deadlocks, vicious cycles, and a sense of helplessness. The alternative is...
Out of balance? The Practice: Enjoy sobriety. Why? By "sobriety," I mean healthy self-control, a centered enjoyment of life, and an inner freedom from drivenness. We typically apply this sense of balance and self-care to things like food, drugs and alcohol, sexuality, money, and risky behaviors. And if...
Last week we continued the strength of Intimacy by taking a look at Empathy. When we use empathy, we get a sense of the sorrows and joys of others. But empathy on its own doesn’t inherently mean that we become kinder or more compassionate toward...
In this column we will explore how parents can support the development of the positive motivations within their kids that will draw them toward productive and healthy paths....
What's left out? The Practice: Feel whole. Why? When I look back on mistakes I've made - like dumping my anger on someone, making assumptions in haste, partying too much, losing my nerve, being afraid to speak from my heart - in all cases a part of me had...
