01 Jan Being Well Podcast: Why Don’t We Get Better?
This is the Being Well podcast’s five-year anniversary, and over that time we’ve all grown and changed a great deal. And even so, for many people some things remain very difficult to change, leaving them wondering why don’t we get better over time? It’s easy to feel like even after all this time you’re still pushing the same old rocks up the same old hills.
On today’s episode Forrest and Dr. Rick explore why we struggle to change that which matters most to us, how much change is realistically possible, what makes real change hard, the hidden barriers to lasting change, and what we can do about them.
3:55: Why do you want to change?
4:50: Four fundamental strategies
7:00: Three common issues
9:20: Effort, skillfulness, and luck
12:40: Remembering that you get to choose
13:50: “Tailwinds” to help yourself
17:30: Secondary gains, avoiding change, and naming payoffs and costs
24:15: Levity and affection for yourself
27:15: Starting by owning that we choose our behavior
30:10: Resistance and the parts of us that don’t want to change
34:00: Framing, starting with benefits, and absolving shame
39:35: Tactics vs. Strategies
42:30: Celebrating small change, aiming for big healing
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