20 Nov Being Well Podcast: Moving Beyond “Fair” to Build a Great Relationship with Nate and Kaley Klemp
These days couples often shoot for 50/50 in their relationships: an even split of responsibilities in the home or at work. But 50/50 often leads to fights over fairness, and this fixation on fairness can be the death of many relationships.
On this episode of Being Well, Forrest and Dr. Rick are joined by Nate and Kaley Klemp to explore how we can build fun, fulfilling, and truly equitable relationships. Topics include Nate and Kaley’s early relationship struggles, different models of relationship, breaking out of old patterns, and how we can manage situations where one partner really is contributing significantly more than the other.
About our Guests: Kaley Klemp is an executive coach and expert on small-group dynamics, and Nate Klemp is a bestselling author and founding partner at Mindful, one of the world’s largest mindfulness media and training companies. Together, they’re the co-authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship.
1:45: Nate and Kaley’s personal relationship as a basis for their work
5:30: Three different models of relationship
9:30: Two pillars to 80/80 – mindset and structure
12:20: How a 50/50 dynamic caused problems for Nate and Kaley
19:20: The conscious or unconscious division of roles
21:30: Gratitude and generosity
25:40: Parenting, shared success, and being on a team
32:15: Getting your partner’s buy-in: reveal and request
39:50: Underlying beliefs and power imbalances
44:20: Creating structure (and data) to have difficult conversations
49:30: Distinguishing a reluctant partner from an unwilling partner
52:05: Key skills that distinguish successful couples
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