In relationships, it’s natural to join with others, but it’s also fundamentally important to have a strong sense of your own autonomy. In this clip from my Foundations of Well-Being program I explain how you can create a secure base of “me” inside yourself to be more able to explore “we” out in the world.
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In keeping with the theme of TED2008, professor Stephen Hawking asks some Big Questions about our universe — How did the universe begin? How did life begin? Are we alone? — and discusses how we might go about answering them.
Check it out on Ted: http://www.ted.com/talks/stephen_hawking_asks_big_questions_about_the_universe
Who is behind the mask?
See the person behind the eyes.
Most of us wear a kind of mask, a persona that hides our deepest thoughts and feelings, and presents a polished, controlled face to the world.
To be sure, a persona is a good thing to have. For example, meetings at work, holidays with the in-laws, or a first date are usually not the best time to spill your guts. Just because you’re selective about what you reveal to the world does not mean you’re insincere; phoniness is only when we lie about what’s really going on inside.
Much of the time, we interact mask-to-mask with other people. There’s a place for that. But remember times when someone saw through your mask to the real you, the person back behind your eyes. If you’re like me, those times were both unnerving and wonderful.
Even though it’s scary, everyone longs to be seen, to be known. To have your hopes and fears acknowledged – the ones behind a polite smile or a frown of frustration. To have your true caring seen, as well as your positive intentions and natural goodness. Most intimately of all, to feel that your innermost being – the one to whom things happen, the one strapped to this roller coaster of a life trying to make sense of it before it ends – has been recognized by someone. …Read More
You offer many things to others each day in ways large and small. Sometimes people feel good about their contributions into the world – and sometimes they don’t, feeling anxious, stressed, or inadequate.
Learn how you feel about your own contributions, with this short quiz from my Foundations of Well-Being program:
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